This blog post is part of a series exploring the value and benefits of spending time with horses and other animals, including within a therapeutic environment. Previous posts have introduced the series, provided a brief overview and understanding of the research, and have explored how the presence of animals can provide us with the motivation – and courage – to seek out help.
Today’s post focuses on some of what we have in common with horses and other animals – and how this can both be drawn upon to enhance healing and wellness approaches, and help explain why many of us are drawn to connecting with animals. We will also explore some of the differences between us, and how these too can present us with growth opportunities.
We are all Mammals
Humans are mammals. As such, we share many characteristics with horses and other animals, particularly regarding our emotional processes. In fact, our limbic system, containing the amygdala and hypothalamus, which is the centre of emotion and learning in the human brain, is often referred to as the ‘Mammalian brain”.
Why? Because we share this part of our brain with all other mammals.
- You experience frustration when things don’t work out as you’d like? So does your dog.
- You feel alarmed sometimes? Horses do too.
- And do you feel a need to be close to those to whom you are attached? That too is a core emotion experienced by all mammals.
A key gift this ‘common ground’ has the potential to bestow is that feeling of connection, being known and understood; attachment needs that we all share.
So often clients tell me:
“He understand me.” ~ “She’s been here too.” ~
“They are just like me.”
This sense of connection, grounded in real biological common ground, creates many of the opportunities for healing and growth which arise when we bring humans and animals together, and explains much of the ‘why’ behind the human animal bond research findings. Our shared emotional experiences also presents us with many genuine opportunities to give words to and discuss our own areas of struggle through parallel experiences facing the horses. This allows us to work indirectly or “one step removed” which can often be both safer and more effective, and to engage in psycho education through the animals.
Yet I sense our comprehension and growth find even greater depth and value when married and balanced with recognition and understanding of the antonym of this common ground: the ways in which we differ.
While I believe we are only just starting to comprehend and respect the cognitive abilities of horses and other animals, there are certainly aspects of our human brains that are not shared by all mammals. While these differences may give us a sense of superiority (I prefer to see it as a greater level of responsibility) they can also present us humans with problems.
For example, as we explored within a prior blog post about fear, when a horse experiences an emotion they usually notice, process and release it, while we “may be inclined to dismiss or minimise the feeling of alarm; to prematurely tell ourselves or others, ‘don’t be scared’. Or we may hold on to the feeling; ruminate, agonise and relive our fears, often over and over.”
At these times we can turn to horses as role models, and to the simple wisdom their way of operating and being in the world can present and teach us. Susan Chernak McEloy says it beautifully: “Animals invite us back to a world they have never left.”
I believe this ‘same yet not the same’ scenario is an underlying reason why so many of us experience the core conditions conducive for healing and growth to arise which we explored within our previous two blog posts on the research and motivational aspects of the human animal bond:
Congruency ~ empathy ~ unconditional positive regard
We feel and experience their empathy because of all we have in common; they have those emotions too.
Yet we can trust they are genuine (congruent) and don’t judge us (unconditional positive regard) in part because of how they are different from us.
The answer is not to just say we are ‘just like other mammals’ or to just say ‘we are different from other mammals’.
True growth happens best when we recognise that both are true.
Prey or Predator?
Frequently in natural horsemanship, and increasingly in equine therapy circles, I meet the, “horses are prey animals, humans are predators” analogy to explain equine and human behaviour, and to help us become better communicators.
Humans certainly can be predators and we often act this way. For example when we go out into the field with purpose and intent to catch a horse, we may resemble the lion who has pre-selected the antelope he intends to eat for dinner. No surprise then if the horse we have set our sights on is a little hard to catch that day.
In her article, ‘The Science of it All‘, EFL facilitator Wendy Golding states, “Horses are prey animals and this affects how they are built, how they learn, how they respond to their environment, how they protect and defend themselves, and how they socialize. What does it mean to be a prey animal? Prey means they are hunted by predators. Horses have ensured their species survival through highly sensitive observational skills and intuitive responses to their environment. Unlike humans who rely mainly on intellect, horses access the wisdom of their entire bodies, allowing them to read and respond to all the energies around them.”
Observing and accepting feedback from our horses certainly presents us with many opportunities to become more aware of all we are communicating non verbally, and to make changes to this in our relationships – with horses, people and self.
Yet I see this as just one part of the reality; one part of what we can learn from our connection with horses. Because humans aren’t always predators.
We are also prey animals.
From an evolutionary perspective we were not always the hunters, we were sometimes the hunted. And as a result, all that evolution bestows upon the horse as prey animal – including those observation skills and intuitive responses to the environment – also exists within us.
Sometimes we need to consciously reconnect with those parts of ourselves; and horses – as both McElroy and Golding express – can help us do this.
At other times they are all too present, especially when we have experienced trauma.
Sue Falkner March (advanced instructor in TEAM, Centred Riding and Connected Riding) teaches the horsemanship aspects of our equine therapy training workshops at Healing Hooves. Sue often starts these days of training by having participants find what is called ‘neutral pelvis’; a body position that puts us into balance, relaxes our body and makes us much more effective around horses. Sue often remarks that many of us, especially women, instead spend much time in what she calls the ‘arched equitator’ position, something common to a prey animal. If you have a tendency to do this you may notice that you do it even more when you feel anxious or concerned – much like the alarmed horse with his head and tail up in the air.
Again I believe we owe it to ourselves, and the animals we love, to recognise and value both what we have in common, and what we don’t. This is, in my opinion, more genuine and closer to truth; and at the same time it allows us to access, create and share more healing and growth opportunities – for our clients, our horses and ourselves.
Time after time I have borne witness to a client being held in a place which somehow perfectly encompasses and balances the parallels they feel and experience with a horse, with the ways they differ, to present unique moments of insight and healing.
In our next two posts in this “Why Horses” series we explore two key benefits that can potentially be drawn upon as a result of recognising and drawing upon the above balance: animals as role models and animals as a route to psycho education.
This is such good information. I’m really looking forward to the focus training and connecting with the horses. The information about ‘prey or predator ‘ makes so much more sense to me now.
Great info Sue.
This quote resonated with me on a substantial level: ” Time after time I have borne witness to a client being held in a place which somehow perfectly encompasses and balances the parallels they feel and experience with a horse, with the ways they differ, to present unique moments of insight and healing.” I have only had limited opportunities (so far) to marry my work as a CYC Counsellor and my passion for horses; however, the times where these two have crossed paths I have most definitely seen this connection and parallel. This article excites me on a level that I am having a hard time articulating accurately, but it could be compared to my herd of horses excitedly racing across the field while kicking out their back legs 🙂
Great analogy Kerie-Lynn!
Great information Sue! The prey/predator analogy has never quite fit for me. Now I realize that’s because humans have the underpinnings of both prey and predator in our evolutionary process.
Well said Anne! I agree that we need to spend more time “listening” to the feedback that our horses give us.
Yes – seeing myself as both prey and predator made so much more sense to me!
I’ve never heard the part that humans are also prey animals at times. I think that is very interesting!
Makes me think animals/horses express their essence, live in that truth without all the striving to be better, an ‘ideal self’. They know how to “be”.
I really liked how the two aspects of reality and lived experience can be held together in one space for healing to be facilitated! The way you’ve described it Sue, the prey part of us being intuitive and connected with the environment, links up to being grounded and mindful for me. What great material, lots to think about in the next while 🙂
Also I see two syntheses here- the balance between how animals resemble and differ from us (what we have and have not in common) and the balance between predator and prey inherent in the different ways people explore and relate to their world.
great point Shreyasi! Thanks for all your wonderful reflections on this series – please know I am reading and enjoying them all even if I don’t respond to every one!
I look forward to learning more about the neutral body position – in yoga it’s common to see women in a forward pelvic tilt (so their back is slightly hollowed). I’ve definitely noticed that changing the orientation of my hips makes a difference in what I’m communicating to the horse on the ground, and certainly in the saddle too.
‘Neutral Pelvis’ is something we explore the most at the September Focus training but we do introduce it in the foundation training. We have a video from Sue Falkner March that I think you will like! I anticipate it is similar to what you teach/ learn in yoga
This is so fascinating Jessica and Sue! Just this past weekend I had an “aha” moment while riding and it had to do with changing the orientation of my hips! The very moment I sat back “on my pockets” as my trainer would say, my horse responded. This article is a great reminder to get in the habit of doing it on the ground as well – with and without my horses!
I never thought of humans being both predator and prey. Just predators. Just thinking about the similarities and differences that can facilitate healing through the multitude of experiences with a horse to facilitate healing through many different avenues.
Yes – this is something that Sue Falkner March (our equine coach) talks about quite a bit, especially in terms of of how we hold stress in our bodies, and how this then impacts both the horses and people around us. We starts to explore this in the horsemanship section of the online foundation course and will do more during the onsite foundation and focus too
It is facinating what we communicate without saying anything. Body posture while riding sends so many messages but I had not considered the subtleties of it on the ground as well.
Hi everyone!
This article and discussion are compelling! In my psychological practice I work primarily from a somatic approach (Sensorimotor Psychotherapy). This is a gentle and slow treatment modality that uses the wisdom of the body to explore resourcing for clients, as well as provide an access route to processing trauma. I am constantly using my “tracking” skill to notice somatic presentations and shifts both within the client and myself. This has me fascinated by the discussion regarding neutral pelvis and the arched equitor position and how this influences equines. I am keen to get a felt sense of this within the on-site learning and look forward to practicing this within my daily life!
Warmly,
Kim
Hi Kim; I’m very interested to learn more about your comment; “. I am constantly using my “tracking” skill to notice somatic presentations and shifts both within the client and myself. Thanks! I will explore.
Thanks for this Kim! I am a SP practitioner as well and can definitely see some parallels here in discussing posture both in communicating with others and the emotional and psychological states it generates and activates within us!
This is so interesting to me. I have spent a great deal of time studying how we use non verbals to move forward in therapeutic conversations. It is a huge amount of work to transcribe all the non-verbals we utilize in our language (voice tone, intonation, overlap in talk, facial expressions, larger body movements), so it is quite an undertaking. I find it very useful research as I feel like these are the things that help us coordinate our talk and construct something useful in our interactions. So looking through the lens of this predator/prey framework really puts an interesting spin on this kind of detailed research. It would be fascinating to use discursive type methodology to study these bodily interactions we have with each other (equines or otherwise)!!
“Observing and accepting feedback from our horses certainly presents us with many opportunities to become more aware of all we are communicating non verbally, and to make changes to this in our relationships – with horses, people and self.” Providing opportunity to work on congruency; being attuned to what we are experiencing internally and expressing this in our relationships. Often times this is mismatched and I feel the equine environment provides a safe and non-judgmental space to work on this congruency.
The statement that “horses access the wisdom of their entire bodies” is really interesting to me. It makes me think about the different trajectory humans have had and the negative impact on accessing this ability. I am curious to learn more about how to access some of that wisdom.
This is so fascinating Jessica and Sue! Just this past weekend I had an “aha” moment while riding and it had to do with changing the orientation of my hips! The very moment I sat back “on my pockets” as my trainer would say, my horse responded. This article is a great reminder to get in the habit of doing it on the ground as well – with and without my horses!
This hits on a lot of points for me – I totally agree we are both prey ‘animals’ as well as you noted, many people who have experience trauma in certain situations will describe being ‘prey’. Also the piece around attachment and how they want to be with their herd. Reminds me of a recent discussion I had with my horse coach who was remembering how her gelding reacted when her older pony had passed… grief and how he expressed it really resonated with her.
I have really learned (and sometimes still have to be reminded) the power of working “one step removed”. In education, it is mostly about direct teaching. In this work I need to slow down, wait for it to happen naturally when it is meant to happen. Horses also give me the constant and instant gift of reminding me to breathe, and be more present whenever I am around them. It feels like an energy that is there to help me slow down and come into the present moment. This has also started to translate more into my everyday life.
wonderful!
Great information! And interesting concept of predator – prey, even in our posture! Thank you!
you are welcome Judy – I’m glad you liked it!
Great article. I have never heard of the information you shared about the neutral pelvis when working alongside horses. It is amazing how much we communicate to animals with our body language alone.
Nice article Sue, bringing awareness to our body language. Grounding exercises would help with this too.
Yes – grounding exercises help significantly!
I am going to have to review my body posture next time I am the farm, never thought of this, great information!
I love the discussion around observing and accepting feedback from our horses. I think we can learn so much about ourselves with we stop to observe and then take in feedback.
learning to release our rumination of fear/responses would be so helpful
“Animals invite us back to a world they have never left.” I just LOVE this. I am so envious and excited at the same time, when I finally see words defining thoughts or ideas I have in my head and have never been able to properly execute into written language.
The suggestion that the way animals live, where they have instinctively and intuitively remained, is oftentimes so far removed from where we have evolved, resonates deeply. I have found, in my more mature years, there is fortune and clarity and beautiful simplicity in this and I see an ever-growing trajectory for so many of us to cycle back to this; in medicines, family values and practices, health and diet, entertainment and gratification. In where we are dedicating value in our lives.
yes – we have certainly overcomplicated many areas of life. While I don’t ever want to undermine or suggest we don’t benefit from many of the amazing things that human cognition and initiative have developed in this world, removing some of the distractions, returning to focus on relationship, and appreciating simplicity is important too.
Thanks for this post Sue. This is a very rich article indeed. Recently, when I have gone to my horses, I have intentionally stood at a distance and simply invited whatever sensations I can experience. After a few moments, I ‘heard’ in my head “this is how it feels to be me right now”. It was so profound. After receiving and being with this experience, I shared, energetically, “this is how it feels to be ME right now” and the horse turned toward me and lowered its head, blinking and chewing. I have also experienced the ‘bolt’ of energy move through me when a horse is spooked and had reflected on how attuned we were – as if I was a member of the herd in that moment.
Thank you. This really makes sense. And remembering it I feel can help us understand emotions we have as humans.
In thinking about the predator and prey process – it is a constant reminder when I am training young horses to be aware of my positioning with my body and my feel. I am constantly amazed at how my horse can react differently when my body language is different. If my back is arched, my toes are curled etc, my horse will instantly react and arch their back….always a great reminder to be conscious of my feel with the horses.
so true Jacqueline!
I’ve also been thinking about the messages I’m sending out (subconsciously) as well as the messages I’m getting back. This really goes back to the idea of horses mirroring us, which I’ve become increasingly aware of throughout this training. Focusing on these ideas has also made me realize just how much my horse needs praise and reassurance from me and the impact that has on how he navigates new experiences. So much communication happening all the time.
Thanks for sharing. I am interested to learn more about having a neutral pelvis. We communicate so with our body language that we are not aware of.
I agree Amanda! We explore (both theoretically and experientially) neutral pelvis and a number of other body awareness factors during Foundation and Focus training. Our long time equine coach at Healing Hooves, Sue Falkner March, leads us in a range of different exercises (both for ourselves and with the horses) that focus on body awareness, release, and co regulation.
Great article. I’m interested to learn more about having a more neutral pelvis and better body position.
I appreciate the idea that we hold two spaces, both predator and prey. I can see how we act as both, and how, depending on our experiences or trauma or relationships, this may look one way or the other. It reminds me of the idea of authority, how as caregivers to children we are in authority but we must remember that we are always under authority. If we act as caregivers with our own arbitrary actions, we aren’t acknowledging the law or rule we are under, and this often goes very badly (Charlotte Mason’s Educational Philosophy).
I like how you express this Dana!
I really resonated with the quote that, “Unlike humans who rely mainly on intellect, horses access the wisdom of their entire bodies, allowing them to read and respond to all the energies around them.” I began my career using almost exclusively CBT, which is very intellectually based. As I have continued to read and learn, I became interested in how we can access ‘the wisdom of our entire bodies’.” This really shows up when clients explore where in their bodies they experience certain emotions and what the nature of those sensations are. It’s a neat way to make space for emotions and allow them to exist in our bodies. It’s also a way to practice developing a deep respect for emotions, acknowledging that when we do, we can gain a great deal of wisdom from them. A great article about deep respect for emotions can be found at: https://hakomiinstitute.com/Forum/Issue26/2013_Hakomi_Forum_Khong.pdf
Thanks for the link Andrea!
Thanks for this link to Hakomi Andrea! Sensorimotor Psychotherapy also draws on a foundation of Hakomi! I also have been on an ever developing journey of deepening into a full body and wisdom of the body understanding of how we all operate, I am excited to see how this links with understanding horses in a whole body way as well.
I never thought of it as the prey/predator and the similarities vs differences we have to horses and other animals. As much as Ive been trying to learn from horses, it felt more that myself and clients need to be the same’ as the horses. Which this is reminding there are differences in our being but just to learn from them. Such as using our whole body and minds.
I really like the end that says “Time after time I have borne witness to a client being held in a place which somehow perfectly encompasses and balances the parallels they feel and experience with a horse, with the ways they differ, to present unique moments of insight and healing.” Even just yesterday when I was watching the meet the herd videos, I felt that I was able to understand something about myself and it led me to ask some questions about why I feel the way that I feel in new situations. It is amazing that just observing animals can help lower our guard and can help bring great awareness and insight that we might not otherwise experience. Wow!
thanks for sharing this Kirsten!
I really enjoyed your identification of the balance and wisdom both in how we are alike and how we are different from our horses. I am thinking of my trauma clients stuck in feeling defenseless like prey and unable to activate their more predator like qualities to feel empowered in their interactions with others. I can see a rich conversation and reflection on the similarities with our horses and the differences in what we can access as we step into a more confident leader role.
Unconditional regard and genuineness is such a gift. Horses do not know about societal norms.
I have heard the horse as a prey animal and human as predator many times, but I think this is the first time I’ve been introduced to humans as both predator and prey. Thanks…it’s making me think…
yes – it creates quite a shift when we recognise this aspect too!
I enjoy the paradox this article brings up. How we as humans can find similarities and differences amongst us and animals, and with fellow humans. And then what do we do to honour the similarities and understand and accept the differences.
I agree Charis – paradox can be good for us!
The both/ and idea is inciteful and speaks to the nuance and subtlety of life. In these times we need plenty of perspectives that help us overcome the rampant all or nothing and polemical thinking out there. I was able to draw on your lesson about the difference regarding fear response today in a group session (horses let go, humans ruminate). I truly appreciate the wisdom offered in this blog.
I’m glad you were able to apply it in a session Jason!
I very much enjoyed this post, how we are similar and different to horses, and the both-and thinking. As I was reading I as was reflecting on how trauma may impact a human to become more sensitive and aware of their surroundings.
“Horses have ensured their species survival through highly sensitive observational skills and intuitive responses to their environment. Unlike humans who rely mainly on intellect, horses access the wisdom of their entire bodies, allowing them to read and respond to all the energies around them.”
In my research on equine facilitated therapy for children and adolescents impacted by interpersonal trauma, it is suggested that one of the therapeutic qualities these youth experience in a relational connection with a horse is genuine validation of their survival instincts. Through this children and adolescents are permitted to lean into their innate wisdom in the nonverbal realm, that they have developed to ensure their survival in adverse relationships . With the horse they are allowed to attune to, trust and regulate their fear responses, and not be “gaslighted” by their own or others’ intellect analyzing this response.
This, I suppose is once again provided by the qualities of authenticity, congruency, empathy, and validation the horse embodies in the relationship.
Thank for sharing this Jill! And absolutely, horses can help us very genuinely and organically validate and normalise emotions and our responses to situations. At the onsite training I’m planning on talking about the stress response (in both humans and horses) and how this in itself is NOT dysfunctional but is actually our brain and body’s way of keeping us safe. We also start to explore this in the online training within the section on alarm.
I feel like taking a stance of understanding ourselves as a predator is valuable to consider how the horse may be view us. I like how the article gets us to consider both, because I feel that taking the perspective of predator only makes me feel disconnected. So, I like thinking of myself from a leadership standpoint while connecting with the common ground that I have with the horse (ie. as a prey mammal).
I agree Ashley – having both perspectives and understandings at the same time is ideal!
I am sitting with the ‘neutral pelvis’ comment. There is so much insight based on body posture and the nervous system state. Something I have been learning more about through non-western medicine.
Interesting to consider the differences and similarities we have with horses, and can relate to behaving like “prey” at times, even without noticing. Often we get home from a stressful day at work, or difficult conversation with child, colleague and notice how tense our shoulders are, or knotted stomach. Also a good opportunity to used the grounding exercises we have been learning to counteract this.