This blog post is part of a series exploring the value and benefits of spending time with horses and other animals, including within a therapeutic environment. Previous posts have introduced the series and provided a brief overview and discussion of the research in this area.
Many of the people we meet at Healing Hooves have good reason NOT to seek help; not to trust another person. They may have experienced the world and relationships as unsafe places, where those who were supposed to help and care for them hurt or abandoned them instead. Or perhaps they have simply found counselling or personal growth to be unhelpful, boring, and a waste of their time; or something that risks ridicule from their peers.
Other times, a person may be willing – or has perhaps been mandated or coerced in some way – to attend counselling or some other form of support or wellness session, but does not truly engage, participate or trust in the process or the provider. They ‘show up’ physically, but not emotionally.
You may be able to relate. Most of us have been hurt in relationships and have experienced times in our life when we are hesitant to reach out and ask for help. It seems safer to retreat, to say “I’m fine” when we’re not, and to ‘do it ourselves’ when deep down we yearn for someone to be there for us.
Being vulnerable in a relationship is often hard;
sometimes it’s terrifying.
In each scenario we can’t even begin to seek and receive, or provide, help or support unless something provides the motivation and safety needed to show up – both physically and emotionally – despite all the reasons not to.
Horses can be that ‘something’.
In equine therapy the presence of the horses, and the possibilities inherent in working with a horse, can provide the initial draw and motivation to attend, as well as reduce any stigma attached to seeking support. While it is always important to be clear and transparent regarding the nature and scope of the services being provided, we certainly do have clients at Healing Hooves who refer to their time here as ‘horse time’ rather than ‘counselling’. We sometimes even include the names of the horses on our appointment cards!
While riding is rarely the main focus of our horse time, for some equine therapy clients it is the possibility of riding the horses and learning horsemanship skills that creates the initial attraction.
(For a discussion of the implications of incorporating riding into EFW see: Do Clients Always Ride?)
The presence of the animals also presents many non riding but equally engaging options. Taking a dog for a walk, having a horse follow you through an obstacle course, playing with a kitten; these are all aspects of equine and animal assisted therapy which can make sessions a lot of fun, while helping us learn about ourselves and relationships at the same time. At Healing Hooves we frequently discover that our clients do not want to leave at the end of a session!
However, for many of us, riding and ‘what we can do’ does not usually end up being the main, or even the initial, attraction to working, interacting and connecting with a horse. Rather it is the relationship, including our anticipation and perception of the nature and quality of that relationship, that makes interacting and simply ‘being’ with animals so rewarding, and safe.
As noted in our last blog post: Understanding The Research, animals simply seem better equipped than people to provide the conditions – Congruency, Empathy and Unconditional Positive Regard – which many researchers and practitioners believe are necessary for a person to feel safe in a relationship, including a therapeutic one:
“As much as human counsellors and wellness workers may strive to provide and meet these conditions I can’t help but believe that animals, including horses, do this so much more naturally and effectively. Added to this is the reality that many people, especially those who have had challenging experiences with people, are more ready and able to believe and receive these conditions from an animal, than they are from a person. Time and again I meet clients who struggle, at least initially, to accept and perceive the existence of these conditions with and from me; yet they are frequently able to receive and experience them from and with my horses.”
In addition to being key factors in helping someone engage and succeed within an equine and animal assisted therapy session and relationship, the perception and experience of horses as genuine, empathetic and non judgmental may also be what helps a person find the courage and motivation to seek help in the first place.
In time the relationships we develop with horses and other animals hopefully serve to deepen and personalise the initial attraction into a place of safety, self reflection and learning and, where necessary, of healing, recovery and hope. And while relationships with animals can certainly create many opportunities for healing, learning and growth in and of themselves, at Healing Hooves we usually also aim to transfer these factors – including the trust and courage to be vulnerable – to healthy relationships with people, and with self.
But none of that can happen unless ‘something’ initially motivates us to show up.
Our next blog post in this series will explore what we share in common with other mammals, including many of our emotions, and all that we can learn from this. I hope you join us there!
Another great article Sue. I think engaging with animals in therapy can have such profound and healing effects for everyone involved.
It is amazing what adding an animal can do to any situation. Having them present changes to dynamic in a positive way
Oh, this is so true! I have many friends and family members who love to come to our acreage just to spend time with the horse and other animals we have (dogs and chicken). Some of them enjoy coming out to go riding with me, but many of them just want to be in the presence of animals. This principle also carries over to my work as a Child and Youth Care Counsellor when I bring my dog to work; many of my clients show up just to see her! Thanks for another great article Sue!
Hi Kerie!
I have also found this to be true – recently we had someone staying at the family quarter section due to COVID and she mentioned simply being able to brush the horses was such an emotional release for her. I think there is something so different and wonderful about the way people can engage with animals. However, I think sometimes people need help to understand how to safely do this for the animal and themselves.
Hey Jacqueline!!!!
I’m so excited to get to see you again :-). Yes, I absolutely agree that people often need support to engage with animals in a safe way for everyone. It is so important to have those safety conversations before beginning any work with animals and revisit those guidelines regularly. I also find this to be an incredible source of “in the moment” teaching opportunities for the youth I work with.
In my own life, I have found horses so healing! I love being in their presence. Learning about how they are healing is so fascinating!
I agree!
Same goes for me Steph!
Thanks Sue – great articles. Animals, horses, certainly seem to let people know “I’m okay…” Any form of relationship is healing and gives us value through acceptance.
I really enjoy the attachment perspectives in these articles. Animals can be that safe haven and home base for people to feel safe enough to explore and tackle some very painful feelings and experiences, and the connection with an animal can also be a wonderful model for a secure attachment that can be transferred to others, including the therapist, building more secure bonds outside the therapy and with themselves.
That first step is the hardest, to get people to show up and be motivated, so even though we have more to consider in a session with an animal therapist and client, it can also make our job easier when we have such an appealing and intuitive co-therapist 🙂
Well said Shreyasi. I appreciate your comments about the attachment theme in these articles. Seeking support is difficult as it’s hard to be vulnerable. The presence of animals can make it feel slightly less intimidating with the opportunity to work one step removed.
I agree with the above comment. I have observed this time and time again as a former foster parent. Foster children that have some many traumas in their life and not trusting people in their life. Some children I have had in my home have been diagnosed with Reactive attachment Disorder, not securing a strong healthy bond with their parents. These children in and out of different foster homes and struggle to form meaningful connections with people, but have with animals.
It is easy to take the amazing relationships you form with animals for granted when you have them in your life all of the time. I love being able to share see other people begin to experience this.
Hi everyone,
As many of you have reflected, it has certainly been my personal and clinical experience that animals have the capacity to offer a safe and secure relational base. Within the therapy space, I am ever encouraged during rapport building when clients light up as they tell me about their pets and proceed to show me pictures. Such powerful work! I am so humbled and excited to continue journeying through in this training process.
Warmly,
Kim
I always keep pictures of my animals in my office. This provides opportunities for students to engage and relate. I’ve had many students who have reached out to me years afterwards to ask about my pets or remind me of a story I once told. It always amazes me the impact that animals can have on rapport building and maintaining connection.
this sounds great Chloe!